HOW TO START FAMILY MEDIATION?

1. To start a family mediation process, confirm your spouse's or ex-partner's interest in mediation, as it is a voluntary process requiring mutual agreement.

2. Both parties have to download the Intake Questionnaire, fill it in, and fax or mail to my office (detailed instructions are on the form).

3. When I receive both Intake Questionnaires, I will contact both of you to schedule intake meetings.

4. Each party meets with the mediator individually. The issues for mediation are canvassed during this meeting, and the parties get to meet the mediator and ask questions. The Mediation Agreement is signed, and if any preparation is needed during the first session, it is discussed and explained.

Essential Preparation Checklist

Documentation and Financial Readiness

Compile comprehensive financial documents:
- Tax returns
- Pay stubs
- Bank statements
- Asset and debt information
Create a detailed list of income, expenses, and financial obligations

Strategic Mediation Approach

Define clearly your primary mediation objectives
Identify non-negotiable priorities
Determine areas for potential compromise
Consider long-term implications of agreements, especially regarding child custody and financial support

Legal and Communication Considerations

Consult with a family law lawyer to understand your rights and legal options
Have a lawyer review any proposed agreements before finalizing them
Prepare for clear, respectful communication, Avoid emotional arguments
Ensure accuracy of shared information

Child-Focused Planning

Develop a comprehensive co-parenting strategy
Document children's current schedules and needs
Create flexible parenting arrangements
Prioritize children's well-being

Financial Planning

Develop a forward-looking budget
Prepare to discuss:
- Child support
- Spousal support
- Asset division
Bring supporting financial documentation

Key Takeaway

Successful mediation requires thorough preparation, mutual respect, and a commitment to finding collaborative solutions that benefit all parties involved